A recent study from the boomer website Lifegoestrong.com shows that people in the age group of 45-65 aren’t happy with their sex lives. Despite the fact that this group represents the sexual freedom folks of the 60’s and 70’s they’re coming up a little stuck now, in their later years. It can certainly be understood that at least some of them had very open, free sexual experiences during their younger years but what’s happened now? IS it that they can’t ‘best’ themselves? Do they think they know everything about sex and yet really don’t?
To be sure, it is a transition period. Women are going through menopause and life issues while men are beginning to be affected by erectile problems and lack of desire through lowered testosterone levels. Finding new ways to relate sexual and intimately may be some of the problem that is overtaking boomers. They must have expectations carried over from the past that keep them wanting the ‘good old days’ when it comes to a good romp.
Research shows us that we all think we’re about fifteen years younger than we are. This means that a 60 year old woman is looking at a 45 year old and thinking that this is a guy in their age bracket. Men may even be looking at a spread of fifteen to twenty years! So our perceptions of ourselves may have something to do with it, too. And those perceptions aren’t matching the reality of slowing down a bit and the need for a few new tricks.
The Kama Sutra made a revival in the early 60’s and so you’d think that this age set would have done a lot of alternative exploring through-out the years and come up with a great set of techniques to carry them through. If a small percentage of boomers practiced the Tantric sexual practices, well, all the better. But it appears as though some of these ideas and practices have eluded the group. If they had done their studying things might be looking different for them.
Tantric practices have so many techniques in which the lovers/partners can find a very intimate common ground for enhanced lovemaking and conscious sexual/relationship. Even at the tender ages of sixty-five and upwards there are techniques that can produce deep, satisfying experiences. Opening up the heart and mind can lead to much more electrifying satisfaction and can even produce changes in the brain that have lasting benefit to the seeker.
I totally agree with your article. My husband and I both recently retired and for whatever reason our new freedom has rejuvenated our sex life. What a wonderful surprise!! Then I stumbled on this website … Double whammy. We worked hard all of our married life, really hard, so enjoying our freedom and each other has been wonderful. I forgot how much I love this man….life is good.