Celebrating Sacred Sexuality
Tantra yoga comes from the Hindu cultural tradition going back thousands of years. In it’s orthodox form, it is a spiritual path and process that is both complex and complete, describing how to harness and utilize the creative life force energy, including sexuality, to achieve states of higher consciousness. Tantra means “to weave” or combine into union. Tantra yoga weaves the seeming opposite expressions of life force energy… male and female, yang and ying, light and dark, active and receptive…into a passionate ecstatic union…an all-encompassing effulgent frequency sometimes spoken of as God, Goddess, the Force, the Divine, the One. Whether through the internet or by visiting libraries or bookstores, those wishing to learn traditional tantric teachings, will find plenty of resources reflecting Hindu tantric practices and sensibilities.
For many people in Arnerica and the West, however, Tantra is a buzzword, a quick identification icon that signifies an interest in, and practice of, any sacred sexuality expression. Modern psychospiritual teachers tend to combine recently developed forms of psychotherapy and/or reichian techniques with their version of”tantric” practices. Different “schools” of thought and methodology abound, including Osho’s (Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh) version of neo-tantra, Deepak Chopra’s new focus on the importance of integrating sex and spirit in his recent book “The Path To Love”, Margo Anand’s “The Art of Sexual Ecstasy”, Harley Swiftdeer’s Native American Quodoshka, Taoist tantric practices according to Mantak Chia … and others.
Our own humble contribution to the current explosion of interest in sacred sexuality was catalyzed by the two of us entering into an extraordinary tantric multi-dimensional partnership seven years ago. We had each explored variations of sexual expression in the 1970′s and 80′s with other partners, so that we both had a deep commitment to further expand and explore sacred sexuality in a vibrant, mutually empowered, pleasurable relationship. From our past experience and ongoing personal unfoldment of this frequency of relationship, we feel guided to help heal the illusory separation of sex and spirit in our own culture… to actively assist in restoring and re-integrating “sacred love” into our culture’s sexual expression.
As spiritual ministers, in our fifties, attractive, youthful and fit, with seven children between us, we are passionately dedicated to the value of sacred sexuality, family, partnership, clear communication, playfulness, integrity, trust, and love. We are not only aligned on these principles, we are a-loined to them! For us, alignment is a mental sharing of philosophies and viewpoints, while aloinment is a kinesthetic emotional experience of shared feelings. It is from this passionate focus, joy, juice, and flow of shared creativity… along with living the energetic essence of tantra… that American Tantra (m) was conceived and continues to evolve.
American Tantra ™ is a fresh eclectic weaving of sacred sexual philosophies and techniques drawn from wisdom cultures around the world, both ancient and modern. What does “American” mean in this context? Adjectives that come to our mind include: fresh, innovative, fun, free, multicultural, creative, energetic, optimistic. There’s even something in the United States constitution about “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” . We are innovative teachers and advocates of this exciting blend of Sex & Spirit in a New Paradigm Relationship. (One of our poster images is that of Marilena, strong and sweet? sharing her beautiful nude model persona while strategically wrapped in an American flag, where the caption boldly reads: “Stand Up for Freedom, Love and Pleasure… the New American Revolution!”)
American Tantra ™ offers easy, fun ways to integrate and celebrate the body and the spirit as divine temples of loving expression… while sharing that frequency with your intimate partner(s). American Tantra ™ is designed to enhance energetic states of intimate communication, passion and pleasure…even archetypal union… for contemporary people who choose to include and expand the frequency of love and light in their lives. This new paradigm “weaves” together lust and love, personal sovereignty and empowerment, equal partnership, multi- dimensionality, vibrational engorgement, honoring our bodies as temples of divine pleasure. . .focussing and channeling our combined spiritual / sexual / male / female / multi-dimensional aspects of being into a new frequency of living love and light.
In approaching the concept of”archetypal union”, for people who haven’t already experienced their connection with this vibrant frequency, fantasy provides the doorway to access the “reality” of gods and goddesses, elementals, angels, inner guides, etc. For example, should we wish to channel the forces of nature such as flowing wind (air), undulating warm waves (water), grounding solidity (earth), or hot passionate wildness (fire), we can make love as these “larger than life” elements… by expressing in our own way the qualities we associate with these archetypes, and then sexually relating to each other from that space. Channeling archetypal energies is the original virtual reality! Of course, if the more conventional fantasies such as “master/slave”, “doctor/patient”, “pirates”, “primates”, “queen of sheba ‘. etc. are one’s cup of tea, those are all fine to experience as well. However, we suggest adding the wonderful frequency of sacred sexuality to one’s repertoire… and see how powerful it can be!
Another concept mentioned above that might be unfamiliar is “vibrational engorgement”. What does it mean and why is it so important? In our view, the underlying source of all creation is often called “the Force”, the breath of life, Spirit, or God. The one force manifests in physical reality as duality. However, there are a myriad of graduations between the two opposites of each expression of duality. Each gradation is a vibration on its own frequency as it undulates in wave-like patterns within its’ range. All of creation is in vibration… every atom, every cell, and thus every being, both inanimate and animate. . . including us! So the more conscious we are of our vibratory essence, how that essence manifests, shifts and transforms… and of how our thoughts effect our vibrations, the more understanding and power we have over our life’s direction and experience. We discover that we are the makers and shapers of our reality! Sexual energy is a common and powerful way this force can be accessed. Sex energy is life force energy!
In American Tantra ™ it is vital to embrace our sexuality, to understand it, to make the best possible use of it, to integrate and celebrate it in every aspect of our daily life. For us, the sex act of sacred love union takes on a much greater meaning and scope than the quick release and narrow range of passing pleasure currently assigned to sex in the present Western culture. It has been said that having sex is a “local” event, while making love is a “galactic” event! Sacred sexuality provides us with a method of integrating the lust of sex with the love of spirit. By re-creating, revising and updating techniques and metaphysical approaches from many wisdom traditions, we easily and consciously direct this life force energy… utilizing the potentials of full body focus: thought, breath, touch, taste, smell, body positions, movement, toning, song, intuition… gathering all these elements into a simple yet powerful approach to the magic of sex… sex magic…what we now call “American Tantra ™ “.
A simple example of how one can go from “local” to “galactic” is the practice of eye gazing while toning. By consciously raising one’s magnetism and vibrant presence with another, an expansion and deepening of the intimate energetic interchange between partners occurs. Sitting close together, bodies touching while facing each other, each participant looks directly into the eyes of the other, slowly and rythmically breathing deeply together, exhaling a long sustained tone with each outbreath. Very relaxed, breathing and toning in this manner can go on for as long as is pleasurable. This practice is one of many that can be combined in different sequences… expanding the exchange of intimate sexual energy to cosmic proportions. That’s a big secret… focus on conscious breathing to access the “cosmic”! (There is an entire science of breath called “prana yoga”… well worth integrating into every aspect of daily life! )
So a person on the path of American Tantra ™ makes the choice of channeling the love and light frequency in each moment. This involves observing, and modifying when necessary, any negative thoughts and energies that may arise. Utilizing the powerful life force energy, easily accessed through sexual expression, for healing, for channeling, for intimacy and communication, for nurturing, for expressive spontaneity? for bonding, for creativity, for manifesting magic… in all of these ways, American Tantra ™ is both useful and desirable… because it’s fun, it’s pleasurable, it’s social, it’s healthy, it’s holy and wholey! We share an unending, ever changing dance of life experience… for that is our purpose in being in physical bodies. In American Tantra ™ we are expanded, radiating more energy, maintaining awareness, enjoying the unfoldment of life, thus stress and fear naturally diminish in our “world”. It’s a world of pleasure, shared adventures, bonded relationships, deeper intimacy and sensory delights. We are in harmony with all of nature, all creation. We are love itself!
Summing up, our approaches and techniques employed to reach and keep the frequency combining sex and spirit are easy and natural. Through focussed fantasy, the sexual “vibration” is expanded, enjoyed and productively utilized at the same time… for healing disease, for empowering a myriad of intentions, visions, decrees, channeling, and other forms of sex magic! Our methods for solo, couple and group energy creation lead to group celebration… forming a solid basis for new paradigm partnership between the sexes. Sacred sexual traditions of many cultures are explored and re-experienced in present time… being here now… in a culture of our own creation. Simple forms of sensory input… breathing, seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching… all are re-tooled to be vehicles for multidimensional en-lighten-ment. That’ s right… lighten up… because there’s adventure and discovery on the American Tantra ™ path!
Utilizing the attitudes and techniques we share in our video and in our music, can help you get started! We facilitate monthly gatherings and workshops for those who wish to go deeper, and are available for private coaching with singles and couples as well. We intend to co-create neo- tribal, post-dysfunctional, multi-dinzensional, sex and spirit positive, loving and juicy generations of gods and goddesses in the flesh. On the starship Intercourse, we greet and part with:
Chances are, if you’re still reading, you’re one of us, so welcome home!
“ORGASM LONG AND PROSPER!”
Paul Ramana Das & Marilena Silbey (reprinted by permission)