Author Archives: SuzieHeumann

Sexuality Is a Complicated Issue

Sexuality is a complicated issue. Because sex, like almost everything in life, is based on a neuro chemical cocktail that includes addictive neurotransmitters, we can always expect the full spectrum of expressions in our human sexuality. We condition ourselves to … Continue reading

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Yoni Worship: Ask Suzie

In any Tantric practice, involving partners, it isn’t necessary to have your partner even be aware of what you are practicing. It helps tremendously, of course, but it isn’t necessary. Both of you will benefit from the experiences and the ‘unknowing’ one may actually fall right into a sort of natural Tantric rhythm once a few sessions have happened. Having your partner/lover not interested is no reason not to proceed!… Continue reading

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The Yoga of Sex Muscles

I began doing Kegels many years ago because I wanted to tighten my muscles for more “feeling” during sex. Then I began to get into the more subtle facets of using those built-up muscles to explore the “courtesan” in me. Many stories exist of women so highly trained that they could grip a man’s phallus and not let go until they chose to. The Kama Sutra lists the sex technique Vadavaka as “The Mare’s Trick” and a skilled woman could rhythmically and consciously massage and “milk” with her pelvic muscles. What the literature doesn’t tell is that by learning and enabling this set of muscles the body core becomes more stable and healthy… Continue reading

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Celibacy and Tantric Practices

I often receive questions that I think would benefit others to read about. Here’s is a new one from a visitor to this site: I recently took a vow of celibacy, but am empathic.  I want to work with my … Continue reading

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Life-Long Learning – iPad Tantra

“Honey, what’s that you’re looking at?” “Oh, nothing.” “Sam, what are you looking at? Why do you have your iPad and should I be jealous?” “Uh, well, no, not exactly.” “That doesn’t tell me much. OK, now I’m getting angry!” … Continue reading

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Thank You Darwin: Phallus Evolution

Upon closer examination you can see that the upper lip of the head, or corona, is thicker than the lower part on the frenulum side. In some men it is a lot thicker. If you consider frontal intercourse positions (something that is supposed to distinguish us from many of the higher apes) then what is this thickness for? Why is it there? Evolutionarily there is always a reason… Continue reading

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What Do Singing, Throats And The Vagus Nerve Have To Do With Orgasm?

It’s fairly gorgeous in Sonoma County this time of year and the days are getting warmer. This afternoon I rode in my car with my windows down and the radio blasting. The song was Tina Turner’s “What’s Love Got To Do With It.” It doesn’t matter as much what song it was as that it is a full-throated, lusty song, one that you have to open up your mouth to sing and open it big. And you have to open up your chest and throat, too. Continue reading

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I’ll Have What She’s Having: How Mirror Neurons and Music Increase Pleasure

I went to see Bonnie Raitt and Taj Mahal the other night in Oakland California. The setting was beautiful and the crowd was thrilled with the music and the vibes. Late in the program, as they sang a lusty, bluesy song together Taj began to wave his hands in the air and he encouraged us all to do it with him. Everyone began waving their hands and arms in the air and we all fell into a side-to-side sweeping, wave of ecstatic dancing! We were like one big sea anemone, an organism, waving in a sea of music and bodies and bliss. Continue reading

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Orgasms For Men: Belly Breathing And Tantric Sex (VIDEO)

The Tantrics and Taoists, in particular, have developed, over thousands of years, simple, relatively easy and obviously fun techniques to help men train themselves to last longer, choose when they might ejaculate (or not) and experience multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate physiological experiences. They don’t necessarily go together, it just seems that way… Continue reading

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The Curious Association Of The G-Spot And The Upper Palate

I discovered this dual connection between the mouth and the yoni quite a few years back and have never heard anyone else refer to it before. I love oral sex and had wondered why that might be so. Yes, I love to eat, so that is a part of it — OK, I’m oral! I have also noticed that during oral sex it’s the slow out-stroke that always gets me. It’s the same with intercourse. Continue reading

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