Category Archives: Tantric Sex

The Yoga of Sex Muscles

I began doing Kegels many years ago because I wanted to tighten my muscles for more “feeling” during sex. Then I began to get into the more subtle facets of using those built-up muscles to explore the “courtesan” in me. Many stories exist of women so highly trained that they could grip a man’s phallus and not let go until they chose to. The Kama Sutra lists the sex technique Vadavaka as “The Mare’s Trick” and a skilled woman could rhythmically and consciously massage and “milk” with her pelvic muscles. What the literature doesn’t tell is that by learning and enabling this set of muscles the body core becomes more stable and healthy… Continue reading

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Celibacy and Tantric Practices

I often receive questions that I think would benefit others to read about. Here’s is a new one from a visitor to this site: I recently took a vow of celibacy, but am empathic.  I want to work with my … Continue reading

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Life-Long Learning – iPad Tantra

“Honey, what’s that you’re looking at?” “Oh, nothing.” “Sam, what are you looking at? Why do you have your iPad and should I be jealous?” “Uh, well, no, not exactly.” “That doesn’t tell me much. OK, now I’m getting angry!” … Continue reading

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What Do Singing, Throats And The Vagus Nerve Have To Do With Orgasm?

It’s fairly gorgeous in Sonoma County this time of year and the days are getting warmer. This afternoon I rode in my car with my windows down and the radio blasting. The song was Tina Turner’s “What’s Love Got To Do With It.” It doesn’t matter as much what song it was as that it is a full-throated, lusty song, one that you have to open up your mouth to sing and open it big. And you have to open up your chest and throat, too. Continue reading

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Orgasms For Men: Belly Breathing And Tantric Sex (VIDEO)

The Tantrics and Taoists, in particular, have developed, over thousands of years, simple, relatively easy and obviously fun techniques to help men train themselves to last longer, choose when they might ejaculate (or not) and experience multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate physiological experiences. They don’t necessarily go together, it just seems that way… Continue reading

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The Curious Association Of The G-Spot And The Upper Palate

I discovered this dual connection between the mouth and the yoni quite a few years back and have never heard anyone else refer to it before. I love oral sex and had wondered why that might be so. Yes, I love to eat, so that is a part of it — OK, I’m oral! I have also noticed that during oral sex it’s the slow out-stroke that always gets me. It’s the same with intercourse. Continue reading

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Enlightened Sex: Women’s Tantric Breathing And Orgasm (Video)

Each of us is responsible for our own pleasure. Blaming your partner isn’t going to get you very far. Knowing your own body and the sexual stimuli you desire is of the utmost importance. But there is another thing a woman can do to advocate for her sexual focus and presence. It will increase the blood flow to her extremities (think clitoris, G-spot and pelvic area) and help her focus her mind on sexual turn-on and the stimulus she is receiving. That ‘thing’ is breathing… Continue reading

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Enlightened Sex: Movement For Freeing Orgasm

As I exaggerated my movements with purpose, my experience immediately shifted. I really got into it. Walking this way, my hips felt like they were lubricating themselves and I became more embodied and relaxed. I use the term ‘lubricate’ because a recent study showed how researchers could pick out orgasmic women by simply watching them walk. I was lubricating my pelvis! … Continue reading

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Unplugged Tantra: 3 Easy Steps to Recharging for Two

If you’re putting off sensual and sexual activities because you’re too tired or busy you are undermining your emotional connection with your lover and your self. The neurotransmitter oxytocin is the bonding hormone that is produced during birthing, breastfeeding, nipple stimulation, kissing, orgasm, eye gazing and touching. In fact, researchers are finding more actions to attribute the release of oxytocin to all the time. Whether it is a big expression or a relatively small dose, this is the stuff of emotional bonding, relaxation and lasting love. Five out of the seven things on the list above occur during sex!… Continue reading

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Pleasure Fibers & Touch: Pleasuring Me Pleasures You

I love to swim. I love the water running past every inch of my skin, tickling the hair follicles as it passes over my alert and ready nerve endings. I dive into the pool outside my living room French doors and push off repeatedly to the surface from the bottom of the deep end. I experience the thrill it gives me as I push up from the bottom and break the surface. I focus my mind on the sensations the water makes streaming past every hair follicle on my body, over and over again. I am training my mind/body to more fully love the sensations I already know and love… Continue reading

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