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The Yoga of Sex Muscles

I began doing Kegels many years ago because I wanted to tighten my muscles for more “feeling” during sex. Then I began to get into the more subtle facets of using those built-up muscles to explore the “courtesan” in me. Many stories exist of women so highly trained that they could grip a man’s phallus and not let go until they chose to. The Kama Sutra lists the sex technique Vadavaka as “The Mare’s Trick” and a skilled woman could rhythmically and consciously massage and “milk” with her pelvic muscles. What the literature doesn’t tell is that by learning and enabling this set of muscles the body core becomes more stable and healthy… Continue reading

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Re-Wilding Your Life

If your cultural and family views didn’t hold so much weight, you might experience more freedom in your life to have the kind of love, sex and open-hearted intimacy that you really, in your heart of hearts, know is possible. You might have even experienced the essence of this a few times in your life. Profound changes might occur in the world if each of us could express ourselves with full freedom, boundaries included, and exist in a more ‘wild’ environment of our own creation… Continue reading

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Studying Love Instead Of War — What If?

Do you remember the old folk ballad Down By the River Side – The one that has the line “I ain’t gonna study war no more”? What if everyone studied Love instead? What would life be like if we humans had made a turn, somewhere deep in the past, that lead us down a path of love instead of fear and hate? Would we have been much more careful about population explosion, hunger, abuse, control issues and infanticide? Would we have cared for those we did have and cherished and cared for the earth in better ways? Would there be no ‘us and them’ in this scenario? Continue reading

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Spiritual Sex: Holiday Celebrations For Couples

You’re in it now or in the planning stages. The next few weeks are going to be busy, to say the least. Keeping your sanity might mean taking a bit of time to focus on your relationship. Celebrating yourselves in a new way might make all the difference in great holiday memories and help to mellow you out, too. Continue reading

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Playfulness – Can Getting Experimental Lead To Orgasm?

Orgasms are important to women no matter how convincing the idea of being in pleasure without being goal oriented is. Some of the time you can do this and some of the time you want an orgasm, pure and simple. Cultural constraints, modern media, lovers and friends can all influence how you might feel about your body, emotions and your ability to orgasm. Sometimes you just want what she’s having and you want it now. If that’s the case with you then find your lover, get playful and read this: Continue reading

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