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The Yoga of Sex Muscles

I began doing Kegels many years ago because I wanted to tighten my muscles for more “feeling” during sex. Then I began to get into the more subtle facets of using those built-up muscles to explore the “courtesan” in me. Many stories exist of women so highly trained that they could grip a man’s phallus and not let go until they chose to. The Kama Sutra lists the sex technique Vadavaka as “The Mare’s Trick” and a skilled woman could rhythmically and consciously massage and “milk” with her pelvic muscles. What the literature doesn’t tell is that by learning and enabling this set of muscles the body core becomes more stable and healthy… Continue reading

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Thank You Darwin: Phallus Evolution

Upon closer examination you can see that the upper lip of the head, or corona, is thicker than the lower part on the frenulum side. In some men it is a lot thicker. If you consider frontal intercourse positions (something that is supposed to distinguish us from many of the higher apes) then what is this thickness for? Why is it there? Evolutionarily there is always a reason… Continue reading

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What Do Singing, Throats And The Vagus Nerve Have To Do With Orgasm?

It’s fairly gorgeous in Sonoma County this time of year and the days are getting warmer. This afternoon I rode in my car with my windows down and the radio blasting. The song was Tina Turner’s “What’s Love Got To Do With It.” It doesn’t matter as much what song it was as that it is a full-throated, lusty song, one that you have to open up your mouth to sing and open it big. And you have to open up your chest and throat, too. Continue reading

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I’ll Have What She’s Having: How Mirror Neurons and Music Increase Pleasure

I went to see Bonnie Raitt and Taj Mahal the other night in Oakland California. The setting was beautiful and the crowd was thrilled with the music and the vibes. Late in the program, as they sang a lusty, bluesy song together Taj began to wave his hands in the air and he encouraged us all to do it with him. Everyone began waving their hands and arms in the air and we all fell into a side-to-side sweeping, wave of ecstatic dancing! We were like one big sea anemone, an organism, waving in a sea of music and bodies and bliss. Continue reading

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Orgasms For Men: Belly Breathing And Tantric Sex (VIDEO)

The Tantrics and Taoists, in particular, have developed, over thousands of years, simple, relatively easy and obviously fun techniques to help men train themselves to last longer, choose when they might ejaculate (or not) and experience multiple orgasms without ejaculating. Orgasm and ejaculation are two separate physiological experiences. They don’t necessarily go together, it just seems that way… Continue reading

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The Curious Association Of The G-Spot And The Upper Palate

I discovered this dual connection between the mouth and the yoni quite a few years back and have never heard anyone else refer to it before. I love oral sex and had wondered why that might be so. Yes, I love to eat, so that is a part of it — OK, I’m oral! I have also noticed that during oral sex it’s the slow out-stroke that always gets me. It’s the same with intercourse. Continue reading

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Enlightened Sex: Women’s Tantric Breathing And Orgasm (Video)

Each of us is responsible for our own pleasure. Blaming your partner isn’t going to get you very far. Knowing your own body and the sexual stimuli you desire is of the utmost importance. But there is another thing a woman can do to advocate for her sexual focus and presence. It will increase the blood flow to her extremities (think clitoris, G-spot and pelvic area) and help her focus her mind on sexual turn-on and the stimulus she is receiving. That ‘thing’ is breathing… Continue reading

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Enlightened Sex: Movement For Freeing Orgasm

As I exaggerated my movements with purpose, my experience immediately shifted. I really got into it. Walking this way, my hips felt like they were lubricating themselves and I became more embodied and relaxed. I use the term ‘lubricate’ because a recent study showed how researchers could pick out orgasmic women by simply watching them walk. I was lubricating my pelvis! … Continue reading

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Playfulness – Can Getting Experimental Lead To Orgasm?

Orgasms are important to women no matter how convincing the idea of being in pleasure without being goal oriented is. Some of the time you can do this and some of the time you want an orgasm, pure and simple. Cultural constraints, modern media, lovers and friends can all influence how you might feel about your body, emotions and your ability to orgasm. Sometimes you just want what she’s having and you want it now. If that’s the case with you then find your lover, get playful and read this: Continue reading

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